Obie Job is three! What a little ham – I mean, man!
This handsome lad is up to 25 lb 8 oz and is 33 inches tall. I was really excited to see he gained in both areas since 6 months ago. He gained a pound and an inch. Yay!!
We finally got Obie’s genetic test back from months ago (this was after calling them multiple times) and we confirmed he has some stuff going on. We’re pursuing further appointments etc. and hoping to get more detailed testing done asap, but everything takes forever in the medical field. He had an echo done a couple months ago, just to check if there was anything wrong with his heart. We had good news from that – all looked well.
We are still seeing quite a few issues with Obie. We laugh about the way his physical therapist put it, “Obie is…. quirky. And, I think he’s always going to be a little quirky.” haha He is quirky, but we love him. ❤
We’re still working through Obie self-inflicting. When upset, he will smash his head (hard) on floors, concrete, whatever is near. He will also box his head or body. We definitely believe he has an abnormally high pain tolerance. He still will scratch his hands, face, and body obsessively, in spite of me constantly redirecting him. Food contines to be a huge issue with Obadiah. Although I would say he has had significant improvement with maintaining his self-control during meals, there are still issues with that. There is no indication that he can regulate intake either. It’s still scrape the plate clean, no matter the amount. In addition, he continues to have rough behavioral issues prior to and directly after every meal and snack time (so…. a huge amount of each day).
He often struggles to interact appropriately with peers and prefers to sit one on one with an adult figure, often speaking repetitively to them and struggling to move on unless guided elsewhere. He will impulsively interrupt and attempt to direct the conversation to himself when an adult speaks to another child. (Example: “How old are you Elly?” O: “I THREE!”) Other people usually encourage these behaviors unwittingly because he’s so interactive. His vocabulary is still mainly a pack of direct quotes (mostly from me) he has heard. I couldn’t possibly list them all, but I will try to list some of his most common in the quotes section below.
After much encouragement and effort, Obie finally mastered the skill of building Duplo towers!! It was such a fun thing for him to figure out. Moving up from bystander and helper to doing it yourself. Just what I like to see!
In usual Obie fashion, he was pretty proud of himself.
Daddy’s hilarious failed, “Hold your tower up above your head!” photo idea. hahaha
Two other super exciting things Obie learned how to do (after much, much practice!) by late summer were climbing up on the little park we have (He learned that around the time Elly figured out how to go across the top of the park, so we had to get a picture of the two of them doing their new tricks. ha!) and figuring out how to go down the slides SITTING. For the longest time, all he could manage was fumbling down via very ungraceful belly sliding, crashing into his head at the bottom.
Obie loves to be his own biggest cheerleader. He likes to cheer for himself over things he has known how to do for like 6 months to a year. haha It just never gets old! This was from one of those times and it was slightly better than normal because of what he was cheering over…. We were at the Christmas Tree Festival and he was playing his free game (homeschool day, guys). It was corn hole and he was running up and dropping the bags directly in the hole. I mean, practically shoving them into the holes. This was followed by uproarious clapping and cheering (by him). Um….? Great job there, babe.
Obster has always loved animals. He really likes cats. He enjoys petting them when they meander over and rub his legs. I also think he likes the fact that they aren’t jumpy or in your face. Obie likes to cuddle and hug, but also can get really finicky about touch.
Puppies are fun when they’re young enough too.
He was not so much a fan of holding our butterflies. He always thought he wanted to and then would completely freak out when I let him. Thus the reason I’m holding his hand here. The butterfly can thank me for its life.
For a (very long) while there, Obie had a really rough time doing outside time with just the kids. If I was out there, no problem, but if I was in the house, he would stand as near the door as I would let him and alternate between screaming at me and bawling at the top of his lungs. We worked on this daily and he eventually started “playing” with the other kids outside. At first, this meant he would pick up a stick and stand near them holding said stick. haha Him and Evie developed a little bond over their fascination with sticks.
These days, Obie typically finds something near the other kids to lounge against. At least he does it with a smile.
During the warmer fall days, finding soybeans in our field was a pretty fun activity. Obie didn’t necessarily enjoy trekking through the field as it was a little challenging for him physically, but he did like harvesting the beans.
I think it’s safe to say he was a much bigger fan of harvesting our own apples earlier in the year. That often ended with the kids getting to EAT an apple, which may or may not have been the ultimate highlight for him.
Bedtime is always a production at our house. 6 kids 6 an under makes for a lot of chaos. Not too many dull moments with this energetic crew. These two toddlers (we can get away calling them that at least until Elly turns 3, right?) can be such an interesting duo. Whenever I send Obie to get his pajamas for the night, Elly thinks it’s her job to run and help him. It definitely takes two to carry a pair of 2T pajamas, right? Uh…..
They are pretty adorbs in their matching bear jammies though. ❤
Look at all these kids we have! Seeing them all lined up like that is kind of overwhelming. I mean…. whoa. It’s one of my favorite pictures though. ❤
Matching jams fun! haha
Look at this crew I take grocery shopping once a week with me (to 2 stores, guys). It doesn’t always go perfectly, but we do have a system and we always make it. haha
Obie received physical therapy through the AEA for the past couple of years. He officially aged out of their system when he turned 3. His therapist said she thinks he will do well enough without it now anyway. He is obviously still pretty behind physically, but the best thing we can do for him is keep him moving and working on new skills as much as possible. He still gets special shoes and will probably need to continue that his whole life, although that might look different as he ages. His most recent pair of shoes were EXTREMELY exciting! Although they are the brightest shade of yellow one could imagine for a pair of shoes….. I’m not complaining because I DON’T HAVE TO PUT HIS BRACES ON WITH THESE SHOES!!! AHHH! So nice. It’s so much quicker to just slip on a pair of shoes in the morning. The reason he doesn’t need them is because these are such tall shoes, they accomplish the same task of supporting his ankles. He doesn’t realize his shoe color is anything less than desirable and is super proud of his new kicks.
Speaking of doing a lot of moving…. Obie had a huge milestone back in late October. We went on a 2 mile hike (which was fairly common for us) and he did the whole thing with NO moaning or whining! We have done a lot of family hiking and although Obie would hike with us, he would usually moan a LOT of the time. It was so pleasant and encouraging to have an entire hike where he was cheerful and clearly enjoying it all! I can’t even tell you….
Football star in the making? Well… probably not, but he has learned how to throw it which was almost just as exciting. It took him a long time to be able to release something instead of just walking it to his targeted person. haha
This is one of my favorite pictures of the four bigs. We were taking a little swing break on the bike trail. Obie can’t pedal or ride a strider bike yet, but maybe this will be the year! We’ll keep trying and eventually he will get there. Meanwhile, the babies and I get a walking buddy. 😉
Looking at the above picture, I admit I am getting sort of desperate for spring. The next picture was one of the first days of cold and just like that I was back to the 15 minute ordeal of getting kids ready to brave the outdoors. haha Just look at those poofy coats.
“Helping” Daddy get some branches out of our yard after a big wind storm. Aka, there for the wheelbarrow rides. ha
Leaf pile run!
This lad is going to learn how to understand a woman before he grows up. His future wife should thank us. Welcoming baby #6 to the family! Obie’s FIFTH sister. For the record, he was super excited about another sister. It was kind of cute. Not sure he will be as he gets older, buuuuuut. haha
Although she was a part of our family since she was 5 weeks old, Obie got to officially add Chloe as his sister the day before his 3 year old birthday. Pretty great present, if you ask me. ❤
A couple of Obie’s sisters (Chloe & Elly) get a naughty sense of enjoyment from teasing Obie from time to time. He can be overly sensitive about getting touched. Also, if someone takes something he was still using he doesn’t hesitate to start freaking out. Frequent scenarios we deal with are: Chloe crawling towards Obie, him cringing away from her yelling, “NO! NO!” and swatting at her – Elly poking her feet at Obie and tapping him lightly, he starts screeching “no” and moves away. She scoots closer and repeats – Chloe uses Obie’s chair at church to stand herself up, he shoves her hands off, etc. They can all be best buds the next minute though. Just don’t be fooled. I mostly just capture the good moments. 😉
Obie likes to play on chairs and still typically eats his food off a chair while standing. It’s easier for him to eat that way and it helps him to go slowly. It’s also easier to monitor him, which he still needs due to his shoveling/not chewing enough/swallowing whole tendencies. If it is anywhere near a meal time, WATCH OUT if you are a sibling and are so bold as to touch his chair, or, heaven help you, actually SIT on it. Sparks will fly.
In general, Obie gets a little crazy when someone is doing something he doesn’t want them to be doing. It might be they are doing something they’re actually not supposed to be doing, like Chloe chewing on dirty shoes. Or, it could be something that he just doesn’t want them to do, such as rocking in a chair. I’m working on teaching him that he is not the boss in our house.
Being a kind big brother and helping out with baby Josie. ❤
Obie isn’t capable of holding Josie independently yet, but he still gets a kick out of assisted holding or having her in his lap. These next two are some of my favorites of them. ❤
These two can go from spit spatting to bffs in literally seconds. Always our dynamic duo….
Abby and Obie get a long quite well for the most part. Abby is usually seen as a big person in Obie’s eyes, which helps their relationship significantly. He LOVES when she reads to him, builds Duplos with him, or let’s him bring her endless Duplo pieces for something she’s making.
These two go on spurts where they play together and spurts where they virtually ignore one another. Just depends on the day. haha For a while they were loving playing games where Obie was Evie’s kid. She would hold his hand and drag him all over the house. It was kind of hilarious.
Potty fun. Although Obie has been mostly day time potty trained for about a year now, he still isn’t in underwear. This is because he will still pee in his diaper once in a while. Generally it’s done as a rebellious thing, since he knows very well how to use the potty. Although he can’t get his diaper off himself, he goes to the toilet totally unprompted 90% of the time. He will pull his pants down and loudly announce, “I haf uh go oo uh bafroom!” (I have to go to the bathroom). He does this obsessively when I’m trying to cook, nurse Josie, or he’s done eating and supposed to be playing somewhere other than the kitchen. He usually does about one pee in the diaper per week. Otherwise, he normally uses the same diaper all day and then sops it overnight. Here’s to hoping 3 is the year we move to underwear during the day!
When you’re really getting it on the can.
Reading is still Obie’s favorite. He loves reading books and LOVES being read to.
Games with Daddy are always pretty great too. The Crow Game is his favorite.
Hat fun in our post-halloween special.
– Whenever I ask Obie why he did something, “Cuz, that’s why.” Thanks very much. That explains it completely.
– Obie tends to talk on and on and on. He likes to spend the entire day as near to me as possible, talking to me, generally with a few extremely repetitive phrases. It can get tiresome. I admit there are times I stop responding. One of those times when I wasn’t answering he finally goes, “MOM! I talking to you!!”
– “Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!” (this is said really fast and generally for no reason other than to get my attention)
– “Oh why??” (this was the response to literally everything for a while there)
– Elly put a headband in her hair and Obie commented, “Pee cute!” (pretty cute)
– “Awww, dat’s cute!” (that’s cute – he says this whenever I get the girls dressed up. He lives in a girl house, guys.)
– He still LOVES singing hymns and enjoys walking around with his “hymn book” (any book) and singing them at the top of his lungs.
– His favorite hymn is “Haw-uh-woo-ya For!” (Hallelujah for the Cross)
– My all time favorite was when he was practicing stepping up onto the fireplace step. He was talking to himself and growled, “I CAN’T!” Then he replied to himself in a really snarky, high pitched tone, “Yes you can!” This was a sassy mimic of me, because I will often say, “yes you can” when he says he can’t do something. hahaha It was hilarious.
– Because Obie uses an excessive amount of repetitive phrases, I do not always respond. I usually will once or twice and then I tell him I’m all done talking about it. He started answering his phrases himself as a result. Although I am kind of over laughing at it, it really is a comical thing to witness. Here are a small selection for you: “I patient. I calm. Cuh-grada-lations!” (Congratulations) “I not grouching. Good job!” “I happy. Yup!” “I not hitting and stuff soo…. That’s nice!” “I sharing. THANK-you!” “I poop da potty. Ya, you know dat!” (I poop in the potty. Ya, you know that.) “Thank you! You’re welcome!” Even when he’s apologizing to someone, he will often beat them to the forgiveness. “Sorry! I ‘give you!” “I love soup! Me too!”
– “Let’s do this, right?”
– “I love chickens!”
– “I like lambs. Ya, dare cool!” (Ya, they’re cool)
– Obie’s current favorite thing to say over and over and over is words, emphasizing the beginning sound like I did in a cd he listened to. I’ll hear these ones the most frequently: “L-L-lunch!” “K-K-kangaroo!” He does it for any word at all, which is actually pretty smart (although it gets old haha). He will often even say the beginning letter. “K-K-kangaroo! Starts with K, right Mama??” The best is when he mispronounces a word and doesn’t know “lello. l-l-lello!” (yellow) or “nanna. n-n-nana!” (banana) hahaha
– “Love God. Not love food, right Mama? Love JESUS!” (a conversation we’ve had multiple times…. hahaha)
– Many comments Obie has revolve around food. He will often say, “Soup! I wan SOUP!” (he often says it’s his favorite, but then again…. whatever he is currently eating is always his favorite too)
– “What you making?” (when I’m cooking) “For me??”
– If I ever give a list of things we’re going to do and at some point say, “And then we’ll have lunch,” he absolutely freaks out, “Lunch time???? Time to eat???” No, Obie. No. Not yet.
– “Thank you, Mama! Thank you!”
– One of the very first things he says every. singe. morning. is “Oh-gurt! Can I have oh-gurt, Mama??” (he often eats his full fat yogurt in the morning and he is slightly obsessive about it.)
– One benefit of someone who likes eating too much is that they turn into a cleaning machine if I ever say something like, “Clean up the living room and then it will be time to eat!” haha
– “Cun I listen?” (Can) He says this every time someone goes anywhere near a book.
A few months back, Obie started some really rough nighttime behavior. It started with me noticing he was getting out of his bed. I heard banging one night and went into his room to find him sitting next to his bed, tapping his head against the closet door. I put him back in his bed. This happened a few more times before things escalated. He began getting out of bed and then screaming really, really loudly for hours in the middle of the night. It was waking everyone but Caleb and Abby up (the good sleepers in the house). We tried talking to him, putting him back in, consequences, etc., but none of the usual options worked at all. The more we tried, the worse it got. One night he screamed from around 2 to 4:30 in the morning! His screaming was interfering with almost everyone getting any sleep and we were concerned he was going to hurt himself while out of bed in the middle of the night, (It would be several times a night I would find him out of his bed roaming around his room) so we decided to move him to the basement bedroom and put him in a pack ‘n play. Hopefully he will move through this stage soon and we can get him back in a toddler bed. Thankfully, he is still unable to get out of the pack ‘n play due to his physical delays. The one time it’s a bonus!
Sledding with Mama! I could only do it so many times, because I pretty much had to drag him back up the hill each time. haha He thought it was pretty great though!
The four big kids! ❤
This guy keeps us on our toes and is definitely an interesting one to parent. We are learning and relearning all the time with him. He can be Mr. Friendly/Cheerful or extremely growly and sullen about everything. We love him and love to see him learn and grow! We have to slow down and rejoice over small successes with him, which is especially good for me. ❤
Daddy and his son. ❤ The first one was both of their “not excited about smiling for this” faces. haha The next one was better. 🙂